I just learn this from a close friend Jenny about a week ago. It is a shock to me and find it upsetting or rather worrying too.
Another "friend" Hellen (wrong spelling intended) asked Jenny to take care of her mom who is 84 yrs old. The old lady has 4 kids. 3 sons and 1 daughter. Jenny asked for RM2K .....AGREED. Asked to let her continue her part time - 1/2 day 3 times a week ..... AGREED. So Jenny offered to fix the astro and air conditioner for the room. BUT Hellen rejected the offer. Strange as any daughter would want their mom to stay in a comfortable house.
All the children told Jenny not to bother them for little matters. Hellen stay in the same town but told her mom that she is working out-station.
Maybe the old lady is naggy or selfish but whatever it is, I think the children have no choice cos that is THEIR MOM and she is already 84.
This really makes me miss my mom. I get sort of jealous when she chose to stay with the eldest son and not me.
Anyway, Jenny did not agree to take care of their mom by the end of the day cos she was afraid the the old lady might not last long at her place.
WE - ladies n gentlemen - must learn from this and try not to be tooooo naggy when we get older. Not easy but try to be a friend to the children.
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yee :
I use to work in a old ppl home I saw those old ppl living in a home which is a very hight class rest home for them those who are very rich .
but that each day I saw them it make me so sad and make me feel have no hope for my kids cos , is so sad you look at them each day there have 3 meal supply to them feed very well but each day and night there sit in front of the window hope to see thier kids arrive to pay them a visit , I saw this and it break my heart , one of the old lady got crazy off and on she will scearm the whole place down saying she want to see her daughter but I was there for 3 years I never see her daughter came to visit her .
one time I walk by a old lady who are so ill we got to feed her all time , is not my job to feed her but that she wave at me so I wlk in and feed her breakfast becos she was so ill . I feed her and my tears can't stop I can't stop mysaelf crying when I went home I still cry derek ask me to stop working there cos it upsad me so much . make me think one day that will be me in the old ppl rest home and I will be like them look at the window hope to see my kids to visit me how so sad huh .
I wish all those ppl with parent do look after you mummy and daddy . cos there are not foreven for you . once there gone there gone .
I wish I can be with my mum and dad but I am so far from home I just wish my kids grown up fast so I can leave them to look after my parent .
I dun have to worry about this already. Both my parents are no longer here. Anyway, many thanks for the advice.
Yes indeed it is a sad sight to see the parents being placed at the home. For some, I can understand when they have to work and there is no one to tend to them at their home but then like you say, they should make it a point to visit them or bring them out on weekends.
Taking care of old people is never an easy task. It really test you on your patience.
My dream has always been a roof over my head (meaning my own home) and my children to come back and see me when I reach that old age. I pray that I can be like my mom when I grow older. Go wherever I am taken to, eat whatever is served with no complains. Must start from NOW. hehehehehe!!!!!!
well ! I am sure all you kids will look after you well . cos we have been bring up the way how our grandmum thought us .
you be fine yee ,cos you are very much like popo she is a lovely and happy lady just like you .
hope our mum like popo take life more easy , I think she is changing a lot to be very clam now .
as for me my kids is so english I don't place my hope so hight on them .just try to save money as much as I can now ,by the time there grown up me and derek will start to enjoy our life and buy a small hourse and use out invetment to look after ourself to the time come up. I don't hope to live with anyone of them or in the rest home .song like derek parent there live on there own there don't bother all the kids . my in law go away a lot for holiday to see the world and enjoy wat there can, one or twece a year there will visit us or ask us to bring kids down to her she will spend time with grandkids for 2 week without me and derek so the two of us had some time on our own .well can't ask for more for a thoughtfull in law right .
you take care darling yee we all love you very much too you are our secound mummy in life . you are always welcome to stay with us when you old age . I promise you will look after you very well too .xxxxxxxxxx
i wonder who will take care of my mom when she's that old....derrrr...not me definitely since I'm declared as her worst child...
Wow! TQ Pearly. TQ for seeing me so up. Yes among all the siblings, I take after popo the most AND I AM GLAD. It is hard to tell the future. Just have to pray hard and constantly remind myself to be open and not turn to be a naggy old lady.
L/mah - same for you too. Hard to tell, who know yr mom might just see the good side of u one day, and .......... TA RA.... the whole scenario will be changed.
wow! hi penny, first time dropping by. great to see a savvy mom keeping in touch with her daughters thru blogging! my 84 year old mum has just learned to use the dvd player :) she prefers to live alone although our case is quite the opposite. my eldest sis in KL always pestered mum to go stay with her, but mum refused. I guess she's very comfortable in her own territory.
and obviously, mum hates the weather in melbourne :P
Hi! SwtP,
Tks for dropping by.
I am just trying to be happening. Not easy but I am still trying.
I can understand yr mom. In fact I also advise my sis to stay on her own if she can afford it cos somehow it is not so nice to stay with in-laws. Everybody's upbringing is different. When we don't stay with the son/daughter does not mean we love them any less it simply means that we do not want to put them in difficult position. There are bound to have differences staying in the same house.
I think yr mom is great. At least she learn to do things. I would love to be in her position when/if I turn 84. Love to have my own home and my children come home to see me often.
In the current society, sigh...
Hard for them to be at home, hard for them to be placed at 'home'...
Hi Mi!!! hmmmm dun realli nid commenting here lor coz all the rest has says it all.. But U know me love U best la... Come come stay with Ah Wennnn.. I take U to strawberry farm ur favourite
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