I just learn this from a close friend Jenny about a week ago. It is a shock to me and find it upsetting or rather worrying too.
Another "friend" Hellen (wrong spelling intended) asked Jenny to take care of her mom who is 84 yrs old. The old lady has 4 kids. 3 sons and 1 daughter. Jenny asked for RM2K .....AGREED. Asked to let her continue her part time - 1/2 day 3 times a week ..... AGREED. So Jenny offered to fix the astro and air conditioner for the room. BUT Hellen rejected the offer. Strange as any daughter would want their mom to stay in a comfortable house.
All the children told Jenny not to bother them for little matters. Hellen stay in the same town but told her mom that she is working out-station.
Maybe the old lady is naggy or selfish but whatever it is, I think the children have no choice cos that is THEIR MOM and she is already 84.
This really makes me miss my mom. I get sort of jealous when she chose to stay with the eldest son and not me.
Anyway, Jenny did not agree to take care of their mom by the end of the day cos she was afraid the the old lady might not last long at her place.
WE - ladies n gentlemen - must learn from this and try not to be tooooo naggy when we get older. Not easy but try to be a friend to the children.
Monday, May 28, 2007
Wednesday, May 9, 2007
Perfect family
When I was young, I go to loads of movies with my mom.
Some of the shows I remembered has very good stories, like loving understanding husband, nice and accomodative parents-in-laws and very very filial children. There is so much harmony in the family.
The kids place their family NO. 1. Come home early, have meals with family. When they grow big they take care of the parents and help in whatever way they can in and around the house.
I thot these are only in shows. But I really do come across this type of family but sad to say only one.
My aunty in Singapore. She has 4 children, 3 girls and 1 boy. All the children are married and have 2 kids each except the youngest who married late and only one (at the moment). All except the youngest one who is married and migrated to Hong Kong, comes home for dinner everyday. They all have a maid each and drop them mom's place every morning (Mon - Fri). Every weekend they will take turns or plan together to take the parents out for dinner. Every few months the children will plan a holiday for the parents. When they come home they sit in the hall watch tv and chat. Mom is fair to daughters, son and all the in-laws. Whatever she cooks/buy - everybody gets a fair share.
Close to perfect eh?????
But nowadays, if our children are not involve in drugs or crimes - we can thank God already. Agree parents????? Some might think - "I've enough of kids".
Exactly what my aunty said. But I told her, just wait. Wait till you hold the baby then you tell me. When she came back for a short holiday, she made so many calls home to check on her food, sleep and whether she has done her biz (pang sai). YA IMAGINE. She even worrys about whether she shit or not.
Isn't that nice to have such a family atmosphere???? Good for the parents and the children. Can see your children/grand children everyday and for the children, have someone trustworthy to keep an eye on their kids and come home to warm home cook food.
A dream - for me at the moment.
Some of the shows I remembered has very good stories, like loving understanding husband, nice and accomodative parents-in-laws and very very filial children. There is so much harmony in the family.
The kids place their family NO. 1. Come home early, have meals with family. When they grow big they take care of the parents and help in whatever way they can in and around the house.
I thot these are only in shows. But I really do come across this type of family but sad to say only one.
My aunty in Singapore. She has 4 children, 3 girls and 1 boy. All the children are married and have 2 kids each except the youngest who married late and only one (at the moment). All except the youngest one who is married and migrated to Hong Kong, comes home for dinner everyday. They all have a maid each and drop them mom's place every morning (Mon - Fri). Every weekend they will take turns or plan together to take the parents out for dinner. Every few months the children will plan a holiday for the parents. When they come home they sit in the hall watch tv and chat. Mom is fair to daughters, son and all the in-laws. Whatever she cooks/buy - everybody gets a fair share.
Close to perfect eh?????
But nowadays, if our children are not involve in drugs or crimes - we can thank God already. Agree parents????? Some might think - "I've enough of kids".
Exactly what my aunty said. But I told her, just wait. Wait till you hold the baby then you tell me. When she came back for a short holiday, she made so many calls home to check on her food, sleep and whether she has done her biz (pang sai). YA IMAGINE. She even worrys about whether she shit or not.
Isn't that nice to have such a family atmosphere???? Good for the parents and the children. Can see your children/grand children everyday and for the children, have someone trustworthy to keep an eye on their kids and come home to warm home cook food.
A dream - for me at the moment.
Monday, May 7, 2007
Line Dancing
This is not an advertisement but my club - Lake View Club organized buffet lunch every sunday and it is very reasonable. That is why some of the dance studio take the opportunity to make some money by organizing some practice there.
I use to go there for lunch and I just can't help peeping. My! some can really dance well. There are vegetable sellers, fish mongers, tailors, canteen operators, bus operators and so on and on. The ages ranges from 25 to 65. Ya, the olders ones moves slower but they did not miss the steps and variations. Some dances like soldiers but they can remember the movements. Makes me feel so cacat. I have had wanted to take line dancing but up to date still - just wanting. Never really 'tik hei sum kon' to do it.
Went to one once. When I learn the first step, they have already gone to the third. Aihh!!!!! so 'pai seh'. I really admire those who can dance well.
I use to go there for lunch and I just can't help peeping. My! some can really dance well. There are vegetable sellers, fish mongers, tailors, canteen operators, bus operators and so on and on. The ages ranges from 25 to 65. Ya, the olders ones moves slower but they did not miss the steps and variations. Some dances like soldiers but they can remember the movements. Makes me feel so cacat. I have had wanted to take line dancing but up to date still - just wanting. Never really 'tik hei sum kon' to do it.
Went to one once. When I learn the first step, they have already gone to the third. Aihh!!!!! so 'pai seh'. I really admire those who can dance well.
Thursday, May 3, 2007
What a mistake!!
Went to visit a friend in Penang who is diagnosed of lung cancer. She is a very jovial lady. In spite of being sick she was telling us this joke.
She was sent to the hospital by her friends. She was trying to catch her breath when a doctor asked her some questions. Come to this question, do u have any children. She said, "I don't have any children........" then she try to catch her breath again. The doctor then send her to the ward.
The following day, a lady called up and happen to speak to the same doctor, tried to ask about this patient Madam Veronica Ooi. Normally doctors are not allowed to tell unless he/she is the patient's immediatel family. So he asked "who is this"? She replied, "I am the daughter". Puzzled the doctor told her, " cannot be, she told me that she don't have children". Quickly the doctor went to see Veron and told her. Then she said to the doctor,"I was breathless yesterday and could not finish my sentence - I do not have any children her in Penang. My daughter is in KL and my son is in US" .
Wonder whose mistake this is??????????????????
She was sent to the hospital by her friends. She was trying to catch her breath when a doctor asked her some questions. Come to this question, do u have any children. She said, "I don't have any children........" then she try to catch her breath again. The doctor then send her to the ward.
The following day, a lady called up and happen to speak to the same doctor, tried to ask about this patient Madam Veronica Ooi. Normally doctors are not allowed to tell unless he/she is the patient's immediatel family. So he asked "who is this"? She replied, "I am the daughter". Puzzled the doctor told her, " cannot be, she told me that she don't have children". Quickly the doctor went to see Veron and told her. Then she said to the doctor,"I was breathless yesterday and could not finish my sentence - I do not have any children her in Penang. My daughter is in KL and my son is in US" .
Wonder whose mistake this is??????????????????
Marrying the dead.
This is a true story told to me by the bridegroom's sister-in-law. The story goes like this:-
One day this boy A came home with some jewelleries wrapped with a pc of red cloth. Couple of days later an elderly couple came to their house and related their daughter has come to their dreams and told them that A found the jewelleries and even taught them how to find him. So they have to admit. The couple came to confirm a proposal. Ya, WHAT PROPOSAL????
Seem their daughter who passed away some years ago asked for a husband. Now where can they find a husband for a dead person?? Normally people would burn the paper ones but she doesn't want a paper one. She wants to have 'ming fun' (a surname/title). So they came up with this idea - they call it fate. Whoever (male I mean) picks and keep this gift will become her husband. At first A and family disagree until A became very sick for unknown reasons. This time they approach the couple and finally an agreement was made. That is they will go ahead with the marriage provided A can still marry a human. OK - agreed by the dead.
The ceremony:- nothing less than the normal human's marriage. The exchange of gifts, house all decorated with red ribbons and even dinner for the immediate family. Coming to the prayers, A has to go thru with a live chicken.
Couple of years later, A found a girlfriend and then decide to get married. Yes they sought the medium and ask permission from the dead wife. All went well, she agreed provided the 2nd wife pay respect to her.
I would say A is lucky cos he married a reasonal spirit. What if she disagree?????
So guys, be careful, things don't just fall from the sky - hehehehehehehe!!!!!
One day this boy A came home with some jewelleries wrapped with a pc of red cloth. Couple of days later an elderly couple came to their house and related their daughter has come to their dreams and told them that A found the jewelleries and even taught them how to find him. So they have to admit. The couple came to confirm a proposal. Ya, WHAT PROPOSAL????
Seem their daughter who passed away some years ago asked for a husband. Now where can they find a husband for a dead person?? Normally people would burn the paper ones but she doesn't want a paper one. She wants to have 'ming fun' (a surname/title). So they came up with this idea - they call it fate. Whoever (male I mean) picks and keep this gift will become her husband. At first A and family disagree until A became very sick for unknown reasons. This time they approach the couple and finally an agreement was made. That is they will go ahead with the marriage provided A can still marry a human. OK - agreed by the dead.
The ceremony:- nothing less than the normal human's marriage. The exchange of gifts, house all decorated with red ribbons and even dinner for the immediate family. Coming to the prayers, A has to go thru with a live chicken.
Couple of years later, A found a girlfriend and then decide to get married. Yes they sought the medium and ask permission from the dead wife. All went well, she agreed provided the 2nd wife pay respect to her.
I would say A is lucky cos he married a reasonal spirit. What if she disagree?????
So guys, be careful, things don't just fall from the sky - hehehehehehehe!!!!!
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